Method

Take Time to Feel is an organic process that unfolds from what one is feeling, sensing, and experiencing freshly in this moment.

We learn the process with another person. It feels a bit like a slow, fresh conversation. No one party is solely in charge. Neither knows what will emerge, no one is an expert, and both parties are open to experience new possibilities.

To create the space, we postpone acting on many of our well-honed habits in order to practice less-emphasized, valued habits. For example:

We postpone:

  • Responding quickly with the first reactions that come to mind
  • Telling a story that we’re reminded of
  • Resting in a position of safety, strength, and certainty

We emphasize:

  • Slowing down to take in our felt experience and another’s
  • Waiting for and allowing something fresh to emerge before responding to each other
  • Resting in our shared vulnerability and the unknown

While the method includes specific steps that guide us to experience a special quality of connection and being, it has a formless quality that allows the organic to emerge. As our familiarity with the process and trust in each other grows, what initially felt awkward becomes a natural, spontaneous way of being.

Take Time to Feel is also meant to be experienced in our own company. Even on our own, we can evoke the experience of one another and experience ourselves as part of the world.

Kim Acker (USA) and Katrin Oberländer (Germany) have co-created Take Time to Feel. It has grown out of their experience of the Focusing method developed by Gene Gendlin at the University of Chicago and other awareness and bodywork practices.

How Take Time to Feel can be applied